lovely to read this. I've read Joan's work and it is moving to say the least! You write with as Joan rightly said 'details, details, details'.. :)

I recently wrote about a different version of loss. On loss's quantum and intensity and comparison if any exists.. if you want to read about my random thoughts on loss, it is here- https://shrutigupta.medium.com/what-is-loss-and-does-loss-matter-56a328d09487